The Quiet Question That Guides Me

Recent Sunflower at my home

Some choices pull you in fast, but not every pull is worth following. I’ve been asking myself a question and it's been helping me cut through the noise and find what actually feels right. Basically it's, “What am I really reaching for?” And this is helping me see my true desires verses those that are negatively emotion driven. 

• True Desires reflect your values and support your long-term goals.

• Emotional driven feelings are temporary distractions, filler impulses or disguised needs.

Here are a few examples:

• About to scroll social media: Am I craving connection or just avoiding boredom? What am I really reaching for?

• Feeling I need to exercise: Do I want to care for my body or just a response to outside pressure. What am I really reaching for?

• Sudden urge for a new purchase: Do I really need this or am wanting the thrill of impulse buying? What am I really reaching for?

• Considering a new commitment: Do I genuinely want to be part of it, or am I saying yes out of obligation. What am I really reaching for?

• Calling a friend: Do I want to connect with them or am I seeking their reassurance or validation? What am I really reaching for?

This little check-in has been helping me choose activities with intention instead of reaction. It’s a shift I didn’t know I needed until recently so I thought I'd share. :)