Darcy's Touchstones & My Manifesto

My Impressionistic Portrait of Mr. Darcy

This month, I’ve been reflecting on Mr. Darcy, otherwise known as Fitzwilliam Darcy from Pride and Prejudice. Darcy’s journey is one of transformation—he begins as a reserved, proud man but evolves into man who lets his guard down and takes a risk for love and honor. Focusing on his character arc has been a good reminder that I’ve also grown and changed in my own character.

In reflecting on my personal growth, I’ve focused on the positive changes I’ve made and acknowledged the many moments where I’ve overcome my own "high ideals" about life and my place in it. I dedicated an evening to writing a Darcy Reflections letter, creatively crafting the page, stamping a title, and handwriting my journey of refinement over the last 25 years. What a meaningful practice it has been to recognize how far I’ve come! It’s been rewarding to see how my own “prejudices and pride” (whether in thought, actions, or assumptions) have given way to a more open heart and mind.

I also created a personal manifesto to serve as a touchstone in tough times, reminding me of the values I want to embody. Thanks, Mr. Darcy! (see below)

If you want to try your own manifesto, then check out this post. In it you'll be guided to reflect on your growth since you were a young adult. How have you evolved? What are the values that guide your journey? What touchstones would help remind you of the person you strive to be when times are hard? Reflecting on our growth, much like Darcy did in the story, helps us better understand the path we’re walking and the person we’re becoming.