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Saturday, November 23, 2024

Darcy's Touchstones & My Manifesto

My Impressionistic Portrait of Mr. Darcy

This month, I’ve been reflecting on Mr. Darcy, otherwise known as Fitzwilliam Darcy from Pride and Prejudice. Darcy’s journey is one of transformation—he begins as a reserved, proud man but evolves into man who lets his guard down and takes a risk for love and honor. Focusing on his character arc has been a good reminder that I’ve also grown and changed in my own character.

In reflecting on my personal growth, I’ve focused on the positive changes I’ve made and acknowledged the many moments where I’ve overcome my own "high ideals" about life and my place in it. I dedicated an evening to writing a Darcy Reflections letter, creatively crafting the page, stamping a title, and handwriting my journey of refinement over the last 25 years. What a meaningful practice it has been to recognize how far I’ve come! It’s been rewarding to see how my own “prejudices and pride” (whether in thought, actions, or assumptions) have given way to a more open heart and mind.

I also created a personal manifesto to serve as a touchstone in tough times, reminding me of the values I want to embody. Thanks, Mr. Darcy! (see below)

If you want to try your own manifesto, then check out this post. In it you'll be guided to reflect on your growth since you were a young adult. How have you evolved? What are the values that guide your journey? What touchstones would help remind you of the person you strive to be when times are hard? Reflecting on our growth, much like Darcy did in the story, helps us better understand the path we’re walking and the person we’re becoming.


Sunday, November 17, 2024

To Secure the Blessings of Liberty: 20 Meaningful Actions

"To protect your liberty, you must protect your neighbor's—even when their beliefs, choices, and path differ from yours."


In a time when freedoms can feel increasingly at risk, each of us has a responsibility to protect liberty, regardless of our political leanings. Inspired by my reading of On Tyranny  by Timothy Snyder, below are 20 actions designed to help preserve some liberties and safeguard personal rights. This isn’t a checklist meant to overwhelm or feel impossible to complete—it’s a collection of ideas to provide focus, especially on days when hope feels distant. May you find something here that sparks action and strengthens your commitment to preserving democracy—today and for future generations.

Chapter 1: "Do Not Obey in Advance"

Action: Ask yourself if there's a situation where you have been tempted to stay silent when you should speak up. For example, after years of political drama, it might feel easier not to challenge biased comments or misinformation. But choose today to commit to confronting misinformation and prejudice whenever you encounter it. Why: Adapting our values without question can gradually erode critical thinking. By making a conscious choice like this, we strengthen our ability to resist complacent compliance.

Chapter 2: "Defend Institutions"

Action: Choose an institution you value—like local libraries, public education, or independent journalism—and support it by attending events, donating, or raising awareness. History shows that even democratically elected leaders may not respect the system or hold up the institutions that got them there. So we need to defend and support them. Why: Strong institutions safeguard democratic principles. By actively supporting them, you help build a foundation that resists shifts toward dominion authority.

Chapter 3: "Beware the One-Party State"

Action: Support movements pushing for electoral reforms, such as ranked choice voting or campaign finance reform, to encourage political diversity and fairer elections. For example, groups like FairVote advocate for changes that ensure elections reflect the full spectrum of citizens’ voices. Why: Electoral reform strengthens democratic participation, reduces partisan dominance, and helps protect against the rise of a one-party state.

Chapter 4: "Take Responsibility for the Face of the World"

Action: Build community and strengthen the social safety net around you. Support your neighbors, assist elderly community members, host community dinners, or organize a beautification project to foster relationships. By promoting mutual care and support, you strengthen the social fabric that sustains us. These actions don’t need to be politically focused. Why: Our community relationships shape our environment. Small acts of kindness and engagement reinforce positive values, fostering shared responsibility and discouraging divisiveness.

Chapter 5: "Remember Professional Ethics"

Action: Decide early to stand by your professional ethics, even under pressure. If asked to compromise your values, take a stand—whether by saying no, suggesting alternatives, or reporting misconduct. For example, during the January 6th insurrection, some officers faced the moral dilemma of whether to engage or stand back, while also navigating the internal pressures and confusion of the day. In your own profession, there may come a time where your ethics are tested. Decide now to stand firm, even if it means standing in the way of political pressure or unclear directives. Why: Upholding ethics builds trust and integrity, ensuring a just society. By staying true to your principles, you strengthen your profession and its role in the community.

Chapter 6: "Be Wary of Paramilitaries"

Action: Be alert to any groups forming militias, or those hired or acting as self-appointed authorities in your area. This includes private security firms or groups that take on a role outside of lawful authority. Follow organizations that monitor extremist groups, like the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) or Anti-Defamation League (ADL), which track hate groups and provide valuable resources to the public.
Why: Paramilitary action groups and hired private security forces undermine lawful authority, often creating mob mentalities that bypass legal checks. An armed force outside of the police can increase division and fear.

Chapter 7: "Be Reflective if You Must Be Armed"

Action: Review your local and state laws on self-defense and firearm use, and be reflective about the consequences of using deadly force. Consider the ethical and social implications of bearing arms, and weigh the risks of escalation in a time of political and social unrest. If you don’t own a firearm, focus on non-violent safety measures to protect your household and community. Why: A thoughtful understanding of laws ensures responsible choices and prepares us for safety without escalating violence. Being aware of the risks helps us navigate these decisions in a way that supports peace and democracy.

Chapter 8: "Stand Out"

Action: Create a "Personal Inspiration Board" focused on themes like liberty, justice, and democracy. Gather images, quotes, or articles. You can make a physical board or one digitally for your desktop. Update it as new ideas inspire you. If you're tech-savvy, experiment with AI tools to generate unique images, like the one I created above. Let this board serve as both a source of inspiration and a call to action. Why: This board acts as a visual anchor for your values and aspirations, helping you stay engaged with the causes you care about. It offers a creative and personal way to reflect on how you can make a difference, and provides a visual cue to act when needed.

Chapter 9: "Be Kind to Our Language"

Action: Be aware when officials or groups attempt to restrict terms. (e.g., “diversity,” “inclusive,” or “equity” such as in Texas SB17). Defend language that unites us and voice your opposition to efforts that narrow our viewpoints. Why: Words shape our thoughts. Protecting the freedom of language encourages open-minded dialogue, our independent thought, and resists the narrowing of perspectives.

Chapter 10: "Believe in Truth"

Action: Dive into the vast world of books! Be alarmed when books or curriculum topics are banned, as this signals an attempt by certain groups to control what others can think, read, and learn. Why: Both non-fiction and fiction offer profound lessons. Reading helps counter the constant barrage of social media and the shallow soundbites of the internet. A well-rounded consumption of books strengthens your ability to think critically and resist manipulation.

Chapter 11: "Investigate"

Action: Fact-check sources reporting major events or political decisions. Commit to reading articles from at least three different partisan outlets to gain perspectives from across the political spectrum. Consider subscribing to an independent news source, such as 1440 News and ProPublica, or supporting independent journalists. Why: A well-rounded news diet sharpens critical thinking and highlights inconsistencies. Diverse viewpoints prevent single-narrative bias and encourage a fuller understanding of events.

Chapter 12: "Make Eye Contact and Small Talk"

Action: Lean into your close-knit community for support, but also make it a point to engage with people outside your social or political bubble each day. Why: Conversations with a diverse range of individuals help broaden and strengthen everyone's worldview. If you keep to yourself and don’t share your own perspective, others may remain trapped in their biases. Without each other to engage with new ideas, personal growth stagnates, fostering prejudice and narrow views. Building connections nurtures trust, understanding, and resilience in these divisive times.

Chapter 13: "Practice Corporeal Politics"

Action: Attend a local event, rally, or town hall to show visible support for issues you care about. Online activism is important, but it’s not enough. Be physically present at community events to send a stronger message that you are committed to the cause. Show leaders that the issue can’t be ignored. Why: In-person involvement is powerful. Your presence demonstrates that people care enough to act, making it harder for leaders to dismiss the community’s needs. It also strengthens solidarity and gives your voice more weight in shaping democratic change.

Chapter 14: "Establish a Private Life"

Action: Reclaim a private life away from constant digital monitoring. Pick a day to go offline entirely—no social media, browsing, or streaming. Spend time outdoors, with family, or exploring a new hobby. Take proactive steps to secure your data and protect your personal information. Consider shifting away from older sites that can often be filled with bots and try alternatives like BlueSky. Why: Maintaining privacy safeguards your freedom, autonomy, and mental well-being.

Chapter 15: "Contribute to Good Causes"

Action: Select a cause or charity committed to justice or equality and make a small, reoccurring donation. Consider non-partisan groups like the Brennan Center for Justice or The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), which defend voting rights and civil liberties across the political spectrum. Why: Even if small, consistent financial support strengthens the work of organizations that protect individual rights and promote justice.

Chapter 16: "Learn from Peers in Other Countries"

Action: Research a democracy-focused movement outside America. Examples could be researching how Finland reformed its education system to increase civic literacy or Sweden's push to make voting days national holidays to increase voter turnout. Why: Observing other democracies shows us what’s possible. We gain inspiration and ideas that strengthen our understanding of democratic resilience.

Chapter 17: "Listen for Dangerous Words"

Action: Challenge divisive, lazy language that demonizes groups—like calling immigrants "invaders," mocking transgender citizens, or dismissing ideas by labeling them with phrases like "woke nonsense" or "an agenda" without meaningful discussion. Speak out against hate speech and encourage respectful dialogue. Why: Words shape perceptions. Challenging harmful language, especially with family and friends, prevents dehumanization and strengthens democracy by fostering respect, understanding, and thoughtful communication.

Chapter 18: "Be Calm When the Unthinkable Arrives"

Action: Prepare for potential civil unrest or crises by organizing essential documents like passports, birth certificates, and medical records. Keep some cash on hand and understand your rights, whether you’re a citizen or non-citizen. Talk about emergency plans as a family to stay calm and respond strategically. Why: Civil unrest often emerges unexpectedly, catching people off guard. Being informed and prepared allows you to act swiftly, protecting yourself and your loved ones.

Chapter 19: "Be a Patriot"

Action: We are shaping the world that younger generations will inherit, and they may feel uneasy in the wake of recent election responses. Mentor or support a teen or young adult in your community. Take time to teach them about civic duties and how they can contribute. Why: Mentoring young people instills a sense of civic responsibility, pride in living in a democratic society, and the importance of participation. Even if they’re not old enough to vote yet, encouraging them to stay informed and engaged on a level of their age could inspire them to uphold the values of democracy, equality, and justice in the future.

Chapter 20: "Be as Courageous as You Can"

Action: Start a "courage journal/page" where you track and celebrate small acts of courage you take in the weeks ahead—whether it's standing up for someone, speaking your truth, or simply trying something new. Why: Documenting your own acts of courage or engagement boosts confidence and helps you recognize how bravery manifests in everyday life, empowering you to take even bolder steps.

"Let’s walk a hope-filled path by defending liberty today,
even if our steps are small."

 

Monday, October 28, 2024

Women's Quarter: Anna May Wong

 "You must not be afraid of trying. Every failure is a step toward success." - A. Wong

Anna May Wong: A Legacy in Light and Shadow

I found this beautiful quarter recently. Here's a bit more about her. In the twilight of Hollywood’s golden age, Anna May Wong forged a path where none existed, becoming the first Chinese-American movie star to step boldly into the spotlight. The daughter of immigrants, she carried with her not just a dream of stardom but the weight of cultural expectations and relentless stereotypes.

There’s a resilience to her story—one of navigating between artistry and injustice. She accepted limitations while subtly rebelling against them, using her roles to express unspoken defiance. Though denied the lead role in The Good Earth—a part given to a white actress—Wong refused to let Hollywood define her worth. Wong was not only a talented actress but also fluent in English, German, and French. This allowed her to perform and find success in European cinema when Hollywood limited her roles. In 1951, she starred in The Gallery of Madame Liu-Tsong, becoming the first Asian-American to lead a U.S. television series, playing a Chinese art dealer who solves crimes.

Wong’s life urges us to reflect: How do we navigate systems that try to limit who we are? She didn’t play by their rules but played within them, twisting expectation into subtle resistance.

Her enduring lesson is not only in representation but in perseverance: When the world doesn’t see your worth, shine brighter—and on your own terms.

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Saturday, October 19, 2024

Our Delightful Autumn Tea Party

A Regency-Inspired Written Account

Today was a most delightful autumn day, with the air temperate and mild in the mid-70s, as some of the women in my family and I assembled upon a screened porch for an exceedingly agreeable tea party. I brought along an autumn-themed tablecloth, my tea set, seating cards adorned with tea-inspired quotes, and delightful prompts to spark conversation. Our gathering took place at a lavender farm, where soft breezes drifted in, bringing with them the fragrance of trees and flowers. In the distance, we heard the gentle coos of doves and caught the curious glances of a few friendly lemurs the owners had rescued. We partook of fine café sandwiches and salads, steaming lavender tea sweetened with honey, refreshing lemonade, and finished with the most exquisite desserts.

Our refreshments were made all the more charming by the Saxony tea set I acquired from a local antique shop. These porcelain treasures, originating in 19th-century Germany, are celebrated for their fine translucence and delicate artistry—qualities that lent a touch of whimsy and elegance most fitting for such an occasion.

Yet the true joy of the afternoon was found in the company we kept and the lively conversation that followed—what modern minds might call spilling the tea. We spoke freely, laughed heartily, and indulged in the small luxury of repose. Each of us left with a token of the gathering—a bamboo spoon for honey and an unbleached, reusable cotton tea bag—little keepsakes that I hope will inspire future tea moments.

After our meal, we enjoyed a leisurely tour of the gardens, still teeming with late blooms, butterflies, and bumblebees, all glowing in the sunshine. As the afternoon drew to a close, we found ourselves in agreement: this gathering may become an autumn tradition! And with spring’s promise of new blooms, we may very well return to the lavender farm to enjoy another tea party in late March next year.

Above all, a great treasure of this experience for me was found in the relaxation our gathering afforded. Our tea party was more than mere refreshment; it was an escape from the trials of daily life—a pause to savor the good company of family and the sweetness of conversation, as every afternoon tea ought to be.